New Year - New You: Then Why The Same Results?
Each year we witness the same thing - social media posts, blogs, and videos all proclaiming, “New Year, New Me! Watch what I do this year! This is my year!” Even children in school are asked to write out their resolutions for the year; yet, inevitably 99% of people never achieve their goals. Why is that? It’s pretty simple really - they fail to become their next best self.
We often dream of what the new year will look like when we —
get a new job or promotion
move to a new city
get married / get divorced
have kids
make our first million
create a new product or service
start a business we’ve always talked about
buy a new car
take a dream vacation
But then a month into the new year the excuses start rolling in - my boss is a jerk, or the economy sucks, or my college debt, or my dog got sick, or the kids…. the list goes on and on.
What we have failed to learn is that our “New Year - New Me” scenario failed to come to fruition because there was no “New You.” There was only a New Year - a flip on the calendar, just like any other. Most people fail to deliver on their dreams NOT because their dreams are unattainable, but rather because they made no evolution to themselves. As a society, we believe we must achieve something, and THEN we become someone. Sadly, this is not how it goes. In order to achieve all that you desire, you must become the person with the right mindset and beliefs FIRST.
“In order to achieve all that you desire, you must become the person with the right mindset and beliefs FIRST.”
Let’s take an honest introspective look: Did you make personal goals for the type of person you must to become and the habits you must change, while you were writing down all the material things you wish to gain and promotions you wish to attain?
The truth is, most of us don’t. What we do is claim to want the next level of life, money, or relationships, but we continue to:
spend time with the same people who don’t share our desire for growth and change
sleep late instead of waking up 30 minutes earlier to meditate or exercise
think and speak the same way
complain about the exact same things
never learn new skills or read new books
make excuses
We don’t do anything different but yet we expect things to change. Our desire is for everything around us to change but we don’t want to have to change ourselves. News flash - if you’re not reaching your goals, it’s no one else’s fault or failure. That fault lies solely on you.
A “New You” requires an evolution of yourself, that requires doing the thing that most of us avoid - getting really uncomfortable. In fact, we will upgrade everything in our lives - the kitchen, car, clothes - but we will hold onto the same thinking from 20 years ago!
Here are the top 3 things you should consider changing if you want to truly live the “New Year - New Me” scenario.
Your Mindset:
Are you programmed for success or for repeating the same senseless patterns? All of us have some sort of programming we have picked up from our parents, friends, teachers, etc that may be holding us back from truly becoming the next best version of ourselves. Many of us self-sabotage based on these learned behaviors.
A coach or a mentor can help you uncover these things and challenge you to think differently, so you can get out of your own way. And don’t be so self-righteous that you believe you don’t need a coach or that mindset stuff is for weak people. The most successful people in the world rely on coaches and mentors every day - if they use them, why shouldn’t you?
Your Values and Beliefs:
A value is an emotional state we believe to be important. We either want to experience more of a certain positive emotional value or avoid the painful ones. A belief is the rule you place on the value. Many people have conflicting interests when it comes to their values and beliefs.
For example: You may VALUE the feeling of freedom that having more money brings you; however, you don’t want to take action on starting the business you’ve always dreamed of because you BELIEVE you will fail. Great value - bad belief system. If you want to close the gap between the person you are now and the person you desire to be, you best take a look at your value systems.
Spend Time with People whom you Desire to be Like:
You are the accumulation of the 5 people you spend the most time with. You most likely act alike, say the same things, think the same way and achieve similar levels of success. I am not telling you to up and abandon those relationships - what am I saying is that if you desire to be a multi millionaire business owner in the basket weaving world, you better start spending time with other people who have gone where you desire to go. Learn from them - how they think, how they speak, and how they achieved their success.
Remember you have 2 choices: settle for what’s comfortable, OR have the courage to take risks and grow into the unknown. You can’t have both.
If you truly want to live the “New Year - New Me” scenario, go back and rewrite your goals starting with whom it is you need to become in order to achieve all that you desire. The only limits we have in life are the ones we place on ourselves.
Happy New Year & Stay Edgy -
Coach Daniel Tribby, ATC, CNP
Co-Founder, The Edgy Entrepreneur
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